Three years ago, it was a brand new year. A lot like today.
Flipping the calendar to a new year made life feel so much more wide-open than it had just a few weeks prior.
Dreams and options received new breath. Ideas that had felt impractical and unachievable now had a place at the table of “maybe we could.”
So I began to dream about all that we could do that year. All sorts of possibilities came to mind, but with it came the overwhelming question of where to begin on it all.
Will Smith ranks as one of my all-time favorite actors. While I have many of his movies in my movie collection, The Pursuit of Happyness is one of my top picks. In it, Will Smith portrays Chris Gardner, a homeless salesman and single father in a 1981 San Francisco.
The Pursuit of Happyness is a movie that tells a tale of struggle and setback, perseverance and determination. Victory finally arrives, but not until after a long, hard road. And somewhere along the way, Chris Gardner finds happiness.
Friends, I dare say, that the path to our happiness looks quite similar. We want to arrive at a place of happiness, where things go our way and life is easy and good. Yet, happiness is not the end destination, but simply a product of our journey.
I have a confession to make.
I am a gossip.
Seriously. I am a nosey busybody who wants the latest dirt on everybody who is anybody.
At first, it may sound a little silly to confess this to you but I am realizing that just because gossip is more of a “respectable sin” doesn’t make it any less hurtful or less ugly.
Sin is sin, and allowing gossip to breed in my heart is a subtle way to let the enemy sneak in and kill, steal and destroy from the relationships in my life. And I don’t want to do that anymore.
Over and over again in the last few months, God has been peeling back the layers of my gossiping heart to show me just how deep this sin runs in myself. And, friends, it. is. ugly.
Kids really can say the darndest things. But sometimes, what can come out of our kids’ mouths is more rude than funny. As parents, we are often faced with the reality that we are raising little sinners rather than little angels.
My husband and I want our kids to be educated, well-rounded and successful, but more so, we want kids that are kind. We want our children to become teenagers and eventually adults who are considerate, thoughtful and intentional about their words and their actions, especially as it affects other people.
However, if we want to reap kindness in our grown children, then we need to sow kindness into their hearts when they are still little before they intentionally say the darndest things.
“Sit, Momma,” he said, as his tiny toddler hand patted the ground beside him. “Sit.”
The week was growing more stressful by the minute and deadlines were fast approaching. I had grown impatient, and my frustration level was high. However, at 4 o’clock on this weekday afternoon, I found myself stuck outside in the warmth of the sun with the cool breeze blowing by, instead of inside productively tackling my to-do list. Counterintuitively, though, I obeyed my toddler’s request and sat down.
For 20 minutes, I simply sat and drew childish art with my son. No expectations. No deadlines. No stress. I needed a mental break from the waves of responsibility that were overtaking me and it came in the form of an impromptu play date with my toddler and his sidewalk chalk.
When Cupid strikes, and we’ve been bitten hard by the love bug, few things can dissuade us from seeing all the wonderful attributes about our new significant other. We are in “love” (say that with all the dripping sappiness you can muster) and we don’t care who knows it.
Yet, once we say “I do” and the honeymoon has passed, real life has a funny way of dulling our appreciation for all those quirky habits, and instead we find our senses heightened to the frustrating behaviors of our new spouse.
If you’ve become less than smitten with the awesomeness of your husband, then today is perfect for you because here are my three simple steps to helping your husband be the man you’ve always wanted him to become.
Phones. They are amazing little creatures nowadays, aren’t they? From the palm of our hand (or the tap on our watch), we can find the answer to practically anything, figure out directions to practically anywhere and connect with essentially anyone.
With one swipe of the finger, we can engage in a world far more exciting than the awkward waiting room or the discouraging reality around us. For all the conveniences this technology affords us, I believe our smartphones and devices are leaving us ever more distracted and disconnected with the world right in front of us.
We are missing the excitement of our children, the hurting heart of a stranger and the chance meeting of a new friend because the glowing screen in our hands blinds our eyes.